Do you have any problems with your friends and with anger? Lynn Koiner indicates here that Mars retrograde has a lot to do with our upbringing. Expressing and cultivating your anger is I guess the first advice. This is what she writes:
“Mars rules how we initiate, how we take the initiative and how we deal with and express anger. Whenever I see this aspect, I have observed that the individual came from a family in which no one knew how to express or deal with anger. It signifies a family pattern and it will show up with the other family members in some way, with their Mars’ either by aspect or Interception.
With Mars R, reactions, aggressive urges and hostilities are internalized in some way. On the surface, they can appear calm but, inside, they can be a raging volcano. In other cases, anger is expressed inappropriately. And, it can be passive-aggressive in its indirectness. These people do not know how to express their anger.
The House position of Mars Retrograde is where you bottle up, bottle up, bottle up and then BOOM— they explode and cut off the situation. They feel anger inside but they do not know how to direct it and get it out.
They are rarely comfortable with direct, competitive activities, preferring to work alone or indirectly. This can manifest through encouraging the energies and supporting the enterprises of others… such as a coach."
Hi there, Anonymous. Sound like you need some practical suggestions <-8.
OK, I have tons of Earth, plus I have a passive-aggressive 12th House Mars (that I’ve finally managed to get under control so I don’t snap someone’s head off, lol), so I have a rather funky/practical type of advice for you. I also have recovered from a car accident and coma. When I was recovering (after I awoke, of course, haha), I kept a datebook for practical reasons such as work, and appointments. When I started to study Astrology, I naturally segued into it, and my datebook is now filled with ‘emotional’ stuff. For example, in your case why don’t you mark off when you spazz out on another. Then go back and analyze the instance for yourself: genarally I’m going to say for a Mars in Gemini you prolly have too much going on, bouncing all around, and for what? The Retrograde I would think gives you stops&starts; so perhaps you should take your time and figure out what you really, truly want to defend. Just some thoughts…Hope you revisit AstroKnowlogy! PS: I used “Spazzed out” for want of a better phrase (I’m not that Astrologically descriptive enough yet). Ta.
You have to accept we are ALL multifaceted human beings and what astrology does is break things down, compartmentalises things into smaller chunks for you to digest. These chunks are called mathematical aspects these 10 planets make to each other. This is the meat and bones of astrology. Just remember planets are modified by signs, where they express are houses and how they express are aspects Planets to not act alone as if stranded on a desolate island, they interact and express as modified energies. For me astrology is a form of psychology, a way to help you understand you, your motivations and ways of thinking/feeling In future please consider posting a chart rather than just little bits and pieces of it
Whilst the whole chart needs to be taken into consideration, if this is the level you can manage or understand now, that’s ok. Just keep asking questions and that way the ‘whole’ chart will someday make much more sense. Everyone has to start somewhere and I applaud and encourage you for taking those baby steps.
I like this article by Nancy B. Detweiler from saggimc’s link:
MARS RETROGRADE – shifts the outward thrust of energy characteristic of MARS and directs it inward. You will tend to expend a lot of energy reliving internally your past experiences. Because you are constantly to the past, you may inflict past life roles upon the persons in your present life’s environment. There is a strong tendency to place priority upon fulfilling your spiritual desires, resulting in neglect of the physical body’s needs. An intentional focus on holistic growth is needed. Sexual experiences can be less fulfilling because your energy is turned inward. However, sex that is deeply rooted in love between two partners and that strives for a mutual spiritual orgasm can be a much more natural expression for MARS RETROGRADE.
MARS RETROGRADE KARMA – indicates your actions tend to be an effort to recreate situations from your prior lifetimes. You may expend energy in attempting to find people in the present who can symbolize those who fulfilled you in the past. You may try to act out all that you could not express in prior lifetimes. You may over-react when your efforts fail to produce your desired results. This over-reaction can result in “coming on” too strongly, only to have people pull back.