The mental processing and understanding of weighing polarities in life is where you direct your energies. You have the courage (South Node Aries) and the stamina to go where others have not. You will take your personal relationships to the next level of flexibility and understanding. You redefine what it means to have the “right relationship” especially in regards to any victim-rescuer scenarios.
The North Node in the Seventh House, ruled by Libra and the planet Venus, speaks to the desire for harmonious and right relationship with others. It softens the Mars, and it asks that one consider the other person’s opinions and life in a full dialogue of “I and Thou.” North Node placements here encourage one on one relationships in marriage, business, counseling or advising. It also asks that we learn to accept the paradoxical nature of human relationships in which we all have the opposite qualities of light and shadow, good and bad. Accepting the humanness on oneself and others with compassion is an integral part of this placement.
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“Letting go of a “What’s next?” kind of attitude. No longer moving your attention from one shiny object to the next, “Ooh! Shiny!” No longer being so concerned with trends and what the latest hottest thing or idea is. Gaining a more profound understanding of what’s important through your significant relationships. Developing significant relationships that have lasting meaning.
Learning to relate to people beyond a superficial level. Putting more faith in other people. Gaining wisdom through relationship. Understanding how your relationships may reflect your inner fragmentation.. Seeking out friends who are more than fair weather friends. Seeking out partners who want to grow through your relationship.
Seeking out partners who have experiences that are foreign to yours. Forming significant relationships with people who encourage you to expand, explore and take risks. Forming relationships with people who encourage you to get out of your head. Asking yourself who your ideal partner is rather than keeping a mental inventory of unrelated traits. Getting to know other people.
Resisting the urge to gather a lot of facts about relationships but never come to any understanding about them. Getting to the point where you actually know what it means to be in a relationship with someone. Learning to share your life’s adventure with someone else. Beginning to see partnership and marriage as a shared journey. Giving your full attention to your partner."
by Michelle from astrofix.com
You’re a very social person, so much so that you would rather be out partying and generally interacting with others than staying at home alone. Those you relate to, especially your spouse or business partner, will tend to determine the type of lifestyle that you lead. Be careful not to carry your other-oriented impulses too far though — you don’t want to become overly dependent on someone else. If you do, you’ll feel totally lost should you be parted from them for whatever reason. To feel properly balanced psychologically, you need to realize that you have important personal and private needs that must be met, at least once in a while.
“North Node in Libra and/or in the Seventh House With North Node in Libra, our South Node is in Aries. With North Node in the seventh house, our South Node is in the first house. A tendency to rely on the self so much as to alienate important others in our lives, to be excessively competitive to the point of a me-first attitude, to take things personally, and to be impatient, rash, and impulsive at the expense of personal happiness are some of the issues this position suggests. With this position, we need to work on sensitizing ourselves to the needs of others, to learn tact and cooperation, to put ourselves in another’s shoes, and to let go of an overwhelming self-consciousness that is blocking our desire to win.
We are often afraid of the demands that a partner might put on us, and we don’t naturally look for feedback, preferring to act on the moment—on our own hunches and impulses. But for however hard we push ourselves, our plans will be blocked until we stop to consider the other side. We tend to go it alone, often passing up opportunities for growth because we are too focused on our own personal survival. Our impulses and instincts are overloaded, lacking in perspective, and acting upon them will often bring us strife—that is, until we learn to look at the other side, perhaps through the eyes of another. Through partnership, and through cooperation with others, we will attain the inner balance necessary for us to achieve our goals. “ http://www.cafeastrology.com/northnodesouthnode.html
Libra/7th House North Node—Aries/1st House South Node: From selfish self-centeredness to objective awareness of others From intensity to moderation From independence to relationships From aggression to mellowness http://astrologyforthesoul.com/monnodzpolari.html
Are you familiar with Demetra George and her Finding our Way through the Dark? A wonderful read.
Martin Schulman in his Moon’s Nodes and Reincarnation writes:
“This nodal position requires much learning about self-sacrifice and the needs of other people. All the lifetimes of work spent on building self-confidence and esteem must now be transferred to others. The Libra North Node keeps the individual from adding to his sense of self-identity any further. He must guard against strong ego influencing his current life actions.
His long-standing me-first attitude now brings him sharp and painful experiences as he is learning the lessons of co-operation. He must slow down and make sure that all he works for is meaningful, in his marriage and close partnerships as well as all his relations with others. He has to learn to take the sharp edges out of his life and start to balance. While the center road seems less attractive to him, it is still the only path he can have towards happiness.
Ultimately he must learn the very subtle lesson that his strong pioneering individualism isn’t actually meant for himself at all, but rather to equip him better so that he can provide others with a more harmonious life. Many individuals with these Nodes have a tendency to be contrary. The experience of listening to other people is a new one which they find objectionable when they feel it hampers their forward motion.
In past incarnations, progress was all-important, and getting there first was part of the highly competitive Arien drive. This carries over into a definite closed-mindedness which the Libra North Node will ultimately open, showing to the individual the other side of the coin which he had never before thought was important enough to recognize.
Selfishness and vanity of all sorts must be curbed unless the individual wishes to find himself alone. Usually he feels himself being driven towards something, yet he doesn’t understand what or why. Through the Libra North Node, he is now to reconsider his goals and objectives so that his Arian energy is put to some useful purpose.
He changes his mind often; and allegiance to a single cause is not one of his finer attributes. Past incarnations have made him accustomed to a constant impatient restlessness that still has a tendency to keep him on the move. He knows that he is to give rather than to receive in the current life, yet he finds it difficult to cope with such karma with his full heart.
The Martian quality of the South Node impatiently pushes him in new directions. Upon arrival at each destination, however, he finds the gossamer cloud of Libra in the middle of the seesaw, and is surprised to see that hte goal was not a goal at all, nor was the destination the end of the journey. Puzzled and confused, he sits in the middle, trying to evaluate the circumstances which he hopes will point the way towards his next successful drive. And yet each goal, each ambition, each sprint of running and striving brings him to Libra – the half-way point!
Finally, out os sheer exhaustion he makes the amazing realization that the second half of the journey involves other people. He is to learn the karmic lesson that he is not alone. Until he learns to share, something always comes up to put the brakes on his efforts. Eventually he is brought to the realization that winning or losing the game is much less important than the fairness with which it is played.
Many individuals with these Nodes are highly opinionated as a result of selfish or bigoted past-life attitudes. Now it is time for the shoe to be worn on the other foot. Much of the current life’s events are painful blows to the ego. The individual has to guard against becoming embittered as he sees many of his own wants and desires being taken away from him and given to others. At first his natural tendency is to be jealous. He wants to fight back for all those things he feels he has lost; yet the more he fights, the more he loses. Eventually, drained of much of hie inner resources, he must surrender his selfish ego and accept living in a world built on sharing.
Until he overcomes his South Node, his biggest frustration is the witnessing of other people receiving all for which he himself had wished. He doesn’t quite yet undersand how this works, and is puzzled at why all the things he has ever wanted are coming to people around him and yet not to himself. He hardly realizes that all his desires, wants and wishes are actually designed for others.
He is mentally energizing the wishes of people around him so that he can ultimately be an instrument for their fulfillment. In actuality, he is earning himself a new place in the world by living through the karma of selflessness. Still, the insistent urges of the South Node keep pulling him backwards, often making him feel that this is a lesson he would rather not yet learn.
He must try to resist past-life tendencies to make waves, for he is now capable of witnessing disharmonies between people without taking sides. Often he is thrown into the position of referee, whereby in helping others to become more objective, he in fact helps himself. The more he can get others to co-operate, the more he can learn to do it himself.
Underneath all the hustle and bustle, this individual is learning to see hte consequences ofhis actions before taking them. In effect, he must learn to look before he leaps!
For many with this Nodal position, there is a deep-seated anger coming out of past-life memories of frustrations which block the self-expression.
In this life, th ere is usually a very pleasing physical appearance, which is part of the karmic lesson in vanity that the Aries South Node is here to overcome. Any narcissistic residue also causes difficulty in marriage as this is the battleground where the war between love of another and needs of the self must be fought.
The balance between Aries / Mars and Libra / Venus is a difficult one to achieve. The Aries South Node constantly seeks to assert its needs, while the Libra North Node needs nothing for itself but to love others, regardless of their demands. This individual can feel love for others best only after his own needs are fulfilled.
Until the desires of past incarnations are left behind, the incessant pulling of his subconscious demands continues to be so strong that he has a tendency to drain energy from other people, actually putting them to sleep. In effect, he is a walking anaesthetic, constantly wondering why people avoid talking with him for more than a few minutes. He would like to talk for hours, if only to continue the focus of attention on himself. But in his private moments, he is deeply saddened by a sense of loneliness and the knowledge that his relationships with others are so far short of what he would like them to be.
There is nothing subtle about this Nodal polarity. Happiness comes only after he is forced to re-evaluate his desires and truly discovers that they involve other people. The ego-self must be abandoned, and with it a heightened sensitivity to the needs of others acquired.
The Libra North Node is one of the most difficult to achieve because the Aries sel-flove looms as such a large hurdle to overcome. Still, the individual must overcome if there is to be a new cycle for him; and he will find the key to this new cycle as he begins to reflect back upon himself through the eyes of others.
The house position of the South Node indicates the area where insatiable desires of past incarnations are still demanding priority. The house position of the North Node shows how fulfillment can be reached through self-sacrifices, co-operation and the expression of unselfish love to others."