It’s definitely NOT ideal. I’ve had this in a relationship that was pretty much a nightmare but there were many other terrible aspects so I definitely wouldn’t sayvenus square saturn was the sole cause. But Saturn never plays around and he can usually always be felt in one way or another. And because Venus is the planet of love, and we’re talking about a relationship, I think even if the rest of the synastry is amazing, this will still be felt some way some how.
Venus wants to be adored, to be beautiful, loved, and cherished. Venus wants beauty, peace, equality, relationship, and charm. Somehow the saturn person is going to stifle what venus wants/needs. Either the saturn person is cold emotionally, or he doesn’t compliment venus enough making Venus feel inferior, unattractive, or perhaps the saturn person is fearful of showing love, of expressing kindness and empathy and of being vulnerable, or he’s controlling, or he doesn’t like art but the Venus person is an artist, or he lives in another country and it will take years before he’s ready to fully commit.
There will be some sort of blockage or delay from Saturn. However, Saturn always has a reason. Either the venus person’s natal saturn wants to teach her something and is doing so by presenting a person in her life with a stifling Saturn, and this is the venus person’s chance to learn the lesson. Whatever happens… there will be a lesson to be learned by the venus person. How strong and in balance is the venus person’s saturn? This is the test.
Also… to know how much it will effect the relationship’s success, look at Venus and Saturn in the composite. Are they in aspect? Is it a harsh or any easy aspect? If it’s harsh… I wouldn’t keep my hopes up. If it’s a trine, I would stick around. If they aren’t in aspect, I would stick around. How is the moon in the composite? How is venus?
Also look at each person’s natal Venus and Saturn… do they aspect or influence each other in any way? How strong is each person’s Venus? I’m a huge believer in the natal charts as being more telling than synstry or composite when it comes to relationships. Look to see if either partner is even capable of expressing genuine compassion and love. Look to see if the saturn person has any fears… is saturn in harsh aspect to their moon or venus? How is their sun? Is it involved in anything major like a square from pluto, neptune, uranus, or saturn? In the natal, you want to look for signs of hesitancy or fear of love, relationship, intimacy, loss of control, power issues, ego issues… all of which can make Saturn build a huge WALL around the saturn person. Saturn is about boundaries and a fearful person will have boundaries (saturn) so big, that no love (venus) could ever penetrate them. An over-active, fearful saturn would be pretty harsh when squaring someone’s venus.
Post links to the charts and I can be more specific. :)
It doesn’t have to be bad. Without knowing the signs and houses I can tell you this:
He may feel that you are to restrictive and limiting towards him.
You may be older than him, so you can serve almost like a mother figure to him. Sorry to put it so bluntly, but the idea is that he doesn’t get attached to this – it doesn’t let help the relationship and both of you individually grow. But that can be good as well, to a certain degree. Saturn Venus cantacts always involve some kind of lessons in relationships.
It can help you both feel grounded, especially if you don’t have a lot of earth elements in your charts.
Why don’t you order a Comprehensive Relationship Report or at least a Synastry Report? I can go into more details when I do the reading for you guys. Best!