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Well that’s no surprise since your Venus is conjunct Neptune. That makes you value kindness, sensitivity, and compassion in relationships. Jealousy and possessiveness are ego-trips, while Neptune is ego-less. It probably also makes you a romantic dreamer and an idealist. With this great sensitivity, it’s probably better if you know right away what you want from your relationships. With Scorpio involved and with that Mars in Leo, you still must be temperamental. Just my best guess. Take care!
My bf has Venus in Scorpio. It’s not an easy placement. I always found that Skye Alexander has the best description:
Superficial beauty and art that is purely decorative have little appeal for you. Instead you are fascinated by what goes on at the deepest levels, behind the scenes so to speak; and regardless of the form your creativity takes, it will deal with hidden motivations, the dark side of human nature or the mysteries of the Universe.
Your art may border on the macabre or be disturbing in some way. Certainly it is anything but pretty. Often your subject matter is death and transformation. You pursue your muse with passion and intensity, and can become obsessed with your art to the exclusion of all else. However, your perseverance and focus allow you to develop your talent to a high level. Or, you might express yourself through one of the metaphysical arts. No-one takes love and relationships more seriously than you do.
You are seeking nothing less than complete merger with a partner – body, mind and spirit. You aren’t frivolous with your affection, and open your heart to few. Extremely emotional, you realize how strong your feelings are and how deeply you can be hurt if a love affair doesn’t work out; therefore, you are skeptical and cautious about getting involved. Once you commit yourself in love, however, you do so totally and permanently.
You take the vow ‘till death do us part’ seriously, and are a devoted, romantic and passionate lover. You invest so much of yourself in your mate and become so emotionally entwined that you have trouble separating your feelings from his / hers. It is as though you are Siamese twins joined at the heart. Therefore, if you lose your lover or if he / she betrays you, you feel as if you have lost part of yourself. This is the reason for your infamous jealousy and possessiveness. If a lover rejects you or breaks off the relationship – particularly if the cause is another woman / man – you are likely to seek revenge.
For you, a broken heart can be fatal. Your relationships are intense, punctuated by emotional upheavals. Either you are your lover are in the throes of romantic ecstasy, or you are clawing at each other’s throats. You thrive on emotional excitement and excess, and would be bored in a partnership that functioned smoothly most of the time. If things become too calm and predictable, you might provoke your partner into a dramatic scene just to get your emotional adrenalin flowing. You are the type you believes that love is never so good as after a heated fight. Power is usually a factor in your relationships, and it can be a heady aphrodisiac.
You enjoy seeing the power you have over your lover, and may use it in manipulative ways. You want to be in control of the partnership; and power struggles between you and your mate may be the source of many of your arguments. Often you seem to fall in love with someone who isn’t right for you, or with someone you can’t have for one reason or another. There can be a degree of self-frustration and destructiveness in the way you approach love relationships, for one of Scorpio’s roles is to demolish the ego. Regardless of how unsuitable or unattainable your love object it, however, you refuse to give up and may become obsessive in your pursuit of him / her. You may find that you are changed by your relationships, in subtle or profound ways, and that every love affair has a deep, transformative effect on you.
Women with Venus in Scorpio project a powerful sensuality and magnetism that can be both enticing and intimidating. There is something mysterious about you that makes you irresistible to many men, even if you are not especially pretty. To you, part of being feminine is expressing your sexuality. You enjoy being seductive; and seeing the effect you have on men reinforces your sense of yourself as a woman. Perhaps you dress in away that is overtly provocative. Or, you might like to wear either clothing that makes you look tough, such as black leather, or exotic outfits and bizarre combinations that attract attention. Men with this planetary position are most interested in women who are dark, intense, mysterious and obviously sexual, the kind you wouldn’t think of taking home to meet your mother. No cheerleader types or Miss Americas for you – your ideal woman is the femme fatale or the porno queen. You’re also looking for a partner who is strong and not easily dominated by you, someone who will make you struggle to win her love. To you, nothing of value comes easily."
Are you familiar with Howard Sasportas? Check out his books. You will find them very stimulating. His style is elegant and always fresh with insight. This is what he wrote about your Venus in the 6th house:
:By house, Venus indicates those things we care about, are attracted to and appreciate.The 6th house is concerned with the running of everyday affairs, issues of work and service, and attending to the proper functioning of the body. Combining Venus with this house, we come up with someone who actually enjoys vacuuming the sitting room, has a tendency to fall in love with co-workers, and derives great satisfaction from the daily rituals of mundane life.
Even brushing the teeth can be done with style. Frivolity aside, Venus in the 6th people take pleasure in developing and fine-tuning their talents, skills and abilities. It’s not good enough to just do a job; it must be done beautifully. I have done quite a few charts for people with Venus in the 6th who have careers in the field of health, beauty and fitness, and many others who put their artistic talent to practical use as designers and draughtsmen.
One in particular was concerned with designing kitchen products which were both functional and beautiful. More generally, there is the desire for a harmonious work atmosphere and the capacity to bring good feelings into this area.
Normally, the person feels the importance of developing a good relationship with the body. If health problems arise, these could be due to over-indulgence or some imbalance in the diet or life in general that needs consideration. While Venus in the 6th enjoys the more mundane and everyday tasks of life, some may become obsessive about things. They are usually able to apply themselves to work involving precision and detail. The image of the beloved (Venus) might be projected onto servants, co-workers, milkmen, telephone repairmen, dental hygienists, and even pets. (I did a chart for a woman with Venus in the 6th who took her poodle to the hairdresser every third Friday.)"
I read this description by Robert Hand but can’t fully relate, I’m not that possessive at all:
Your feelings about people are very intense; you either like them very much or don’t like them at all. And you will want to have your loved ones near as much as possible. But be careful of this possessive tendency, because you may alienate the very people whom you want as friends by not giving them enough freedom while they are around you. On the other hand, you are very faithful to those you like if they are loyal to you. Only deep relationships have any meaning for you. As a result, you are likely to have a few very close friendships rather than lots of shallow ones. Friendships you form now may well last all of your life.
You find it somewhat difficult to tell someone that you like him or her, because you are afraid of being rejected or misunderstood. It is hard to put your feelings into words, because they seem so complicated. And it is true that not everyone will understand you and your feelings; but you will just have to accept that. Only those who can understand you will make good friends anyway, and those friends will be enough.
Here my chart.